The Role You Didn’t Know You Were Playing
We think we’re walking into the courtroom as ourselves. Prepared. Professional. Aware of what we’re there to do. But that’s rarely what others see.
To one juror, we’re the hero. To another, a manipulator. To the court reporter, we might be invisible. To opposing counsel, a threat. The self we believe we’re bringing into the room is only one of many selves. And in a courtroom—or anywhere with stakes—that gap between intention and perception becomes everything.
In BTC (Building The Case), we teach that you are never playing just one role. You’re shifting constantly, depending on who is in front of you, what you sense they need, and what version of you they’re projecting onto the moment. That’s not inauthentic. It’s human. It’s adaptive. The problem isn’t that we play roles—it’s that we often don’t realize which one we’re in.
The Role Finds You Before You Choose It
You walk into court and notice a juror won’t meet your eye. Suddenly you stiffen, sound overly formal, default to your “safe” version of self. Or your client arrives late and flustered, and you slip unconsciously into the fixer role—again. These shifts happen in seconds. The more unconscious they are, the more reactive and ineffective they become. The key isn’t to stop playing roles. The key is to become conscious of them.
J.L. Moreno, the founder of psychodrama, called the role “the functioning form the self takes in a moment of interaction.” In BTC, we take that seriously. You’re not just telling the jury a story. You’re becoming a character in the story they’re already telling themselves. Your job isn’t to erase that—it’s to work with it.
Mapping Your Roles with Precision
In our workshops, we use exercises like “The Twelve Rooms of You” to explore the different versions of a client, lawyer, or witness that appear in a trial. Each juror sees a different “you.” That isn’t a mistake. That’s the nature of social interaction. And if we want to advocate effectively, we must rehearse not just our opening statements—but the version of ourselves that delivers them.
When you stop asking “How do I appear confident?” and start asking “Who do I become when I feel small, when I feel doubted, when I feel powerful?”—your preparation becomes three-dimensional.
Reflection: Start Here
Ask yourself:
What role do I default into when I'm under pressure?
What role am I afraid people will cast me in?
What role am I longing to play—but rarely allow myself?
The courtroom is not just a space of facts. It’s a theater of relational dynamics. And you’re already on the stage.
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